Most often, we think of commitments as things that we declare to the world like marriage vows, or work commitments, or a commitment to running every morning. Of course, we generally see our commitments as significant to our success. Consider, also, that as human beings we are always committed to something. There is never a time, not even a split second, when we are not committed.
Now, I know this is a big statement, so let’s test it.
You might say, “What about when I’m lying on the lounge watching television? I’m not committed to anything then.” But I would reply that is exactly what you are committed to at that very moment: lying on the lounge watching television. There could even be a stronger underlying commitment.
Consider this scenario: It is Saturday afternoon and you have a stack of work to complete by Monday. You know that to finish it on time, you will need to work on it all weekend. Instead, you’re lying on the lounge watching television. What might be your underlying, in fact, your true commitment at that moment? Try the following ideas:
- You could be committed to not succeeding at work.
- Perhaps you are committed to proving that ”you have too much on your plate,” or that everyone else is lazy, and they leave it all up to you.
- It could even be as radical as: You’re committed to being financially insecure and there’s a real chance you could lose your job if you don’t complete the work.
There are infinite possible commitments that may underlie your actions for lying on the lounge watching television. Any commitment which you have not consciously chosen, I call an unconscious commitment.
Of course, the problem is that we are often not aware of what that underlying commitment is at the time. We have amazingly creative reasons for why we lie on the lounge and they always seem so “true.” We even make sure we have friends around us who agree with our reasons: “Oh, I know, it’s terrible the way they make you do all the work. You deserve a break.”
So, what’s the point?
Well, the great news is this: There is a lot of power in becoming honest with yourself as to why you do things the way you do. This is the key to living a powerful, peaceful, fulfilling life, as opposed to living as a victim of life. Now you may be adamant, “I’m not a victim!” If you are complaining about how your life is, or any part of it, then you are being a victim. You don’t have to be complaining out loud for it to be costing you something. It could simply be that little voice inside your head, singing its repetitive “tune.”
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