If nothing changes, nothing changes

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This week I spoke to a large group of women at a local women’s gym about “How to quit sugar”.  We were well into the presentation, discussing alternatives to white sugar when someone asked me what they could have instead of sugar in their coffee.  The audience tittered! I didn’t need to answer the question, the audience did!  Someone spoke out “cold turkey!”, another one said: “cut back”, yet another pointed out the obvious and said “don’t drink coffee”.

Everyone laughed!  They laughed because they recognised the classic quandary we all face every day when we try to align our actions with what we SAY we want.  What this woman’s question was really saying was: “I don’t want to give up my sugar in my coffee (or my coffee either) but I want to be slim and healthy”.  It’s not possible!

We want something but we either don’t know the correct thing to do to achieve it or we are unwilling to do it.  No wonder we go around in circles never achieving success.  One way of dealing with this is to become despondent and resigned (nicely labelled depression which we have a drug for). I’d like to suggest there is a better way.

So, what to do to find it?  Here are some things to consider:

  1. Next time you go for the sugar or the chocolate, pause for a moment and ask yourself “What am I hungry for?”  And when you’ve answered that question ask yourself again “What am I REALLY hungry for? What does my soul long for?” Just be aware of it.
  2. As the answers slowly come to you start to look for an inspiring vision of yourself and your life and start to act in alignment with that.
  3. Ask yourself “What will I be/do/have when I’m skinny?” and then start to create those things in your life now.
  4. Stop putting your life on hold and waiting till you are your ideal weight before you do what you want.
  5. Do something for yourself because you love yourself not because you hate yourself.
  6. Get angry with the food manufacturing companies who manipulate you into eating crap food.
  7. Remember every time you eat that packet of cheap chocolate, you’re making someone else rich, someone who doesn’t give a shit whether you’re healthy or slim and actually prefers you not to be.
  8. Take back control of your health and your weight by cooking your own food from raw materials that you grow or buy yourself.
  9. Take a really deep breath, get fully present in your body and find that spark of worthiness deep down in your soul.  Do that regularly and you’ll start to fan that spark and slowly it will become a fire burning out all the doubts, fears and incorrect beliefs we have about ourselves. Love is the answer.

If you have the courage to dive into your dysfunctional eating you will discover how to live a really great life – your unique, authentic, fulfilling, fabulous life.

Much love


Brenda Rogers

With over 25 years experience as a corporate trainer, naturopath, yoga teacher and wise woman educator, Brenda is the head clinician and coach at Quintessence Health.

"A healthy mind and body simply ensures you have the time and energy to fully express and manifest your life’s purpose – it facilitates the unfolding of joy."

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